My husband was shocked and deeply hurt when I asked for a divorce after thirty years of marriage. He genuinely believed he had always been a good husband. But there was a reason behind my decision—one he had never even imagined.
It’s strange how two people can live the same life together yet experience it so differently. Even something as sacred as marriage. My husband, Zack, thought he was a happily married man.
I, on the other hand, knew I was not. Our two realities finally collided on our thirtieth wedding anniversary, just two weeks after our youngest and third child had left home. He stood there staring at me in utter disbelief.
“What?” he asked. “Who’s getting a divorce?”
“You,” I told him quietly. “Or rather, I am.”
Zack sat down heavily, still staring at me as if I were speaking another language.
“You’re divorcing me?”
“Yes,” I said firmly. “I’m divorcing you.”
“But why?” he cried, and to my surprise, I saw tears fill his eyes. “I love you, Kelly.
I always have! I never cheated on you, not ever!”
“That’s true,” I admitted. “You never cheated, and you never drank or gambled.”
One of the most important things in a relationship is to listen—to really hear what the other person is saying.
“But… then why?” he asked angrily. “I did nothing, and you’re divorcing me? Are you having an affair?”
“NO!” I shouted.
“I’m not! Do you want to know why I’m leaving you, Zack? I’ll tell you.” I walked right up to him and looked straight into his eyes.
“I’m leaving you because you did nothing! When the children came along and I was working full-time while coming home to take care of the house and the kids alone, you did nothing. “When I was so sick I could barely get out of bed, you did nothing.
When my father died and I was consumed by grief, you did nothing. When I went through menopause and fell into depression, you did nothing. “When I was heartbroken after our two oldest children left home, you did nothing.
You never brought me flowers just to say you loved me. You never stood up for me when your mother was cruel to me. “That time I twisted my ankle and could hardly walk, I still had to get up at six in the morning to make breakfast—while you lay there snoring, doing nothing.
Nothing, Zack, seems to be what you do best!”
“You never told me!” Zack said, looking wounded and confused. “I told you every time I asked for your help,” I said. “Every time I leaned in for a kiss and you were more interested in the television.
Every time I begged for your love and attention—for a little romance—I told you. “I told you five years ago when I asked you to go to couples therapy with me, and you refused because, according to you, there was nothing wrong and you were happy.”
“We can go now,” Zack said quickly, almost desperately. “Set up the appointment, and I’ll come!”
“Of course, now that you see I’m serious about leaving,” I said quietly.
“But you don’t actually care enough to find a therapist and make the appointment yourself.”
“Please, Kelly,” Zack pleaded. “Please give me a chance to make you happy!”
I looked at him, and a deep sadness filled my heart. I shook my head slowly.
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