AITA for not wanting to go through with my part of a deal even though my bf says it’s a good idea? Asshole. Me (18F) and my bf (18M) have had this ongoing argument about me changing my hair color. For some context, all throughout my childhood I was a natural blonde and as I got older it got darker. My natural hair color now is a brunette color. My bf in the past has only ever dated emo girls and or only girls with darker hair. This bothers me because I am the complete opposite. Everything I own is PINK, and my hair is VERY blonde (I go get my hair done every 6 months). Now to the deal, my bf has been saying he wants to buzz his hair off and I told him that he wouldn’t look good with it and to please not because I just wouldn’t like it. He has been telling me that I should go brunette/natural for a while because he thinks I’d look good with it.
The deal is that if he doesn’t buzz his hair that I will go natural. I’ve been hesitant about switching hair colors for 3 reasons.
First, because I’ve basically been blonde my whole life no matter if it was natural or unnatural.
Second, because I feel like he’s trying to make me look like the rest of the girls he’s dated.
Third, I just like being blonde. I have voiced all of these things I feel to him and he just says that it’s not that deep and to trust him and do it.
The main thing that bothers me is that I feel like he’s trying to transform me into his type instead of me just being myself. He’s also said he wishes I’d get over the color pink which adds onto why I feel this way. *Is he trying to change me entirely?*
As of today, we kept having the argument. He told me that I’m not as attractive with my blonde so that led me to ask him “why are you dating a blonde then if you don’t like blondes?” And he told me that he could tell I wasn’t a natural blonde and was hoping I’d go back natural for him. Which I feel like is **bold** of him to assume.
The other main reason this is a big deal for me is because my hair grows very slow and if I dye it, it will be that color for years and probably be hard to get back to blonde if I put dye over it if I end up changing my mind. I’ve also told him this but he told me that his feelings for me will probably not last if I keep my hair how it is right now even though I like it this way. So AITA for not wanting to keep my side of the deal even though I feel like he’s trying to change me into what HE wants?
