I (32F) am angry at my husband (33M) for leaving me when I was feeling unwell, but I cannot reproach him for it. My husband and I were invited by his relatives for dinner. That whole day I had a headache, dizziness, and because of that my coordination was impaired. At first I did not understand what was happening, but then I thought to measure my blood pressure and it was elevated – 150/100. This had never happened to me before and I genuinely felt terrible. I took a pill and continued to monitor my blood pressure. By the time we had to go to his relatives, the pressure went down a bit, but it was still not normal – 140/90. I warned my husband that most likely I would not be able to stay there for long and that I would go home earlier.
After an hour and a half of dinner, I did not feel any better. I apologized to everyone and said that I was going home. While I was getting ready, my husband and I were alone and he started to pity me, hug me, and try to kiss me. He advised me to leave the car at his relatives’ place and pick it up tomorrow, and to call a taxi for myself.
All of this made me incredibly angry. Not only did he not go with me, but he also gave advice that would create more problems for me the next day. I would have had to call a taxi again to go back to his relatives to pick up the car. His concern looked so fake.
I would never in my life stay as a guest and send him home alone if he were feeling unwell. Moreover, when he came back home well past midnight, he woke me up to ask how I was feeling. I cannot bring myself to start a conflict in this situation and say that I am angry. Because technically we agreed that I would leave earlier.
And he was showing in every possible way that he cared about me. If I say that I am angry, he will simply call me crazy and say that I am demanding too much.
