AITA for disinviting my aunt to my bday after a weird comment she made about me and my cousin? Hi reddit, I’m using a throwaway for this. I’m turning 16 in 3 days. My birthday celebration is going to be booking out a restaurant with my whole family. My aunt, (45f) is a very opinionated person who talks before she thinks. It can be endearing and also very aggravating. This instance was aggravating. Me and my cousin are very close and have always been that way. I’ve never seen it to be a weird thing at all. We had a dinner last night to celebrate an anniversary of one of our uncles. Me and my cousin were sat at the table, laughing about inside jokes and whatever. My cousin grabbed my shoulder while we were laughing because he was like doubling over laughing, and my aunt made a face. *I tried to ignore it and just assumed it wasn’t at me.*
But then she kept making jokes, saying we were like bf and gf, and then started to say maybe we should sit a bit apart, and it’s weird for boys and girls to sit next to each other at the table. My dad immediately told her to cut it out and stop being weird, and we were just playing around.
My aunt said she was uncomfortable and made my cousin move down the other end of the table. All the adults kind of tried to tell her she was being weird and to chill out and she kept saying “no, it’s about time someone said that wasn’t normal.”
She was a little drunk so I kind of kept quiet and tried not to cry bc I was rlly grossed out but my dad wasn’t having it. He told her to stop thinking of everything with such a dark mind and we were family laughing and having fun and she was being weird. My aunt started yelling saying it was creepy of him to stand up for that and boys and girls should be separated. My grandma stood behind her nodding.
I started crying bc I got rlly overwhelmed and my dad said “okay, it’s time to go.” My aunt kept yelling about how it was weird and I was being weird as we were leaving. My dad talked to her this morning and she’s stood on what she said and said I was crossing boundaries. My dad said “great idea. you won’t be coming to her birthday.” And hung up.
I didn’t know he was going to say that but thanked him and agreed when he said it. My grandma is backing my aunt saying she was right and to uninvite her is embarrassing for us. My dad is saying his SIL needs therapy and what she said was disgusting. My cousin messaged me saying sorry but we haven’t been texting much at all. I’m just wondering if there’s something wrong with what I was doing, she seemed to feel strongly about it, as well as my grandma. My dad is saying I’m not in the wrong, but he can be protective and is wary of telling me if I’m in the wrong sometimes. AITA? Edit: sorry if it’s confusing. wrote this rlly quickly as I’m finishing smth due tomorrow. if u wanna ask questions abt something I left out or didn’t word properly feel free to ask me. 🙂 2nd: sorry. the title doesn’t match with what I wrote. I only said I disinvited her because my dad said that, then apologised and asked if it was okay and I agreed and said I don’t think she should come.
