I’m 21F, and this happened a few days ago. I’m still not sure how to feel about it. My family decided to do a small birthday dinner for me at home. Nothing fancy, just close relatives. I didn’t even want a big celebration, but my mom insisted. For some context, my older sister (26F) has always been the “golden child.” She’s louder, more confident, and my parents usually side with her. I’ve learned to stay quiet over the years because pushing back usually makes things worse. Everything was going fine until we sat down to eat. Halfway through dinner, my sister stood up and said she had “exciting news” and hoped everyone would be happy for her. She then announced that **she’s moving back home and that I would be moving out soon so she could have my room**. I thought she was joking. She wasn’t. My parents immediately started talking about logistics, like it was already decided. No one asked me anything. My sister even laughed and said, “You’re an adult now, you’ll figure it out.”
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I asked when this was discussed. My mom said they assumed I wouldn’t mind because I’m young and “more flexible.” My dad said this wasn’t the time to argue and told me not to ruin the mood. I felt completely blindsided and honestly embarrassed that this was announced in front of everyone on my birthday. I quietly got up, wished everyone a good night, and left. I didn’t yell or make a scene, but **I did leave before the cake**.
Since then, my family has been calling me dramatic and selfish, saying I overreacted and that my sister’s situation is more important right now. My sister texted me saying I made her feel guilty and stole attention from her big announcement.
I feel hurt and disrespected, but now I’m wondering if leaving was the wrong move.
My family is now giving me the cold shoulder and saying I should apologize to my sister. They keep emphasizing how hard it is for her to move back home and how I should be more understanding. My friends are telling me I did nothing wrong and that my family is being completely unfair.
I’m torn between standing my ground and trying to make peace. Part of me feels like I should just move out quietly to avoid further conflict, but another part of me feels like that would be letting them win. I really don’t know what to do.
